But now he and his girlfriend, the writer Kathryn Chetkovich, live on Manhattan's Upper East Side for most of the year and spend summers at a house in Santa Cruz.

他现在和他的作家女友凯瑟琳住在曼哈顿的贫民区已快一年，目前正在圣克鲁兹度夏。

One evening, after finishing at the catering company where I worked, I met a girlfriend in a pub in Aalbaek, a tiny fishing village in the north of Denmark, a few miles from where I live.

我在一家餐饮公司上班，有天晚上下了班，我的一个女性朋友约我去酒吧，那间酒吧是在丹麦北边一个叫“艾拜克”的钓鱼小镇上，离我家大概四五公里远吧。

There's no point to have a girlfriend or wife if you don't live and work in the same country.

有没有意义有一个女朋友或妻子，如果你不居住和工作在同一个国家。

I had nothing to live for in my old life. I was broke, I had a humiliating job and I was beginning to suspect my girlfriend might be cheating on me.

我以前的生活很空虚，我一无所有，工作也不体面，而且我觉得女朋友会甩了我。

Most importantly, I feel that the status quo as it is now is not acceptable for me in the future. I simply refuse to live my life always centered around my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend.

更重要的是，我觉得目前这种局面是我将来所无法接受的，我只是拒绝自己将来的生活总是围绕着他以前的女友来转。